Friday April 18, 08 09:21 AM - jealousy i don't understand. i see how since its my own life, i'm bound to see things with a bias and therefore make myself out to be the victim rather than the culprit, but in this particular case i just don't think that's the case. you be the judge. 8 months ago i started dating this girl. a month in i find out that her ex (a marine) invited her to go to th emarine ball with him. its in georgia. we're in texas. he was going to pay for her to fly and stuff. she says that i had nothing to be jealous of because he's more like one of her really good friends now and nothing more. that's the first time i say bullshit. now i knew she MAY not have had feeling for him but he sure as hell had fucking feelings for her. why the fuck else would he invite her and pay that much to have her be his date. naturally i got jealous and she told me that i was being too protective and overly jealous. that was case one. months down the line, we were going through some rough times and i found out that he was flying into houston and wanted to meet up with her. she agreed. she didn't tell me about it until after she agreed to do it with him. i understand that its her life and i cannot tell her what to do or who to see, but isn't that just a little bit wierd? so a month goes by and he does come in and coincidentally she tries to break up with me. i convince her that instead we should just take a break. she agrees. she and this guy were supposed to meet one of the four days he would be in town. they met three of the four days and she was the one who picked him up from the airport and saw him off. oh yeah, he does have a brother in town who could have done it. now, before i go any further, i must emphasize the point that i honestly do not believe that she has any feelings for the guy. that's not what thi spost is about. i'm writing it because i think i do have a right to be pissed about these things when they happen. she says i dont and that i'm overreacting. after the break, we have been fine. then there's times when he texts her and i try to just shrug it off even though it does bother me. if sh ecan sense that it bothered me, sh egets pissed at me, as if i can help being bothered by it. she says i'm too jealous about him. but th ething is that i never say anything about it. like i said, i try to shrug it off. she doesn't get mad because i do or say something. she gets mad simply because it bothers me! how the fuck can i help it? today, he texted her and i made a comment teasingly, because yes, now i can shrug it off pretty well and even tease her about it. i think that's a major improvement from before. still, she took it bad somehow. all i said was "so...you're texting him?" her immediate response was: "if you give a damn about it you can just leave." how the fuck is that not supposed to piss me off? i wish so badly that the tables would somehow turn so she could see it from my point of view. still, if you reader think i am overreacting, please tell me so i can know. i'm open to that possibility. but if you think that i have every right to be pissed then let me know so that i don't feel like i'm somehow being unfair. she makes me feel like i'm being unfair in getting pissed about this. Discussion